Societies definition of success is pretty warped. Our relentless pursuit of the two traditional metrics of success, money and power has led to an epidemic of stress-related illnesses and burnout. We need to ask ourselves as individuals and as a collective emerging into new paradigms, why we are striving for a particular version of success and if it is really our highest truth or a pressure and expectation that has been passed down from generation to generation.
"If it makes you happy and requires you to develop and use your skills and effort, then you should definitely pursue it."
To free yourself from the limitations of societies version of success is a powerful opportunity to define life on your own terms. Not just defining it for yourself and wishing you could embody it, but actually going out there and living it.
Many of us grew up with the belief that achieving success required relentless hard work, sacrifice, grim determination, and intense ambition. As a result, we may have struggled for years and even reached some of our goals but wound up feeling exhausted, out of alignment and run down.
For some time, however, I have seen another way, one where we express our souls and can be EM-powered through aligning with our purpose, living our own version of success AND getting paid for what we love to do! This is the stuff that makes my soul sing.
There have been many times throughout my life where I could have let societies markers of success stop me from doing what was right for me and pursuing my own version of success. Here is one that I always remember as being the first time I made a stand for my life and my future.
The year was 2001. I was enrolled in a prestigious private girls school in Sydney but was thoroughly lost and unhappy and battling severe Anorexia Nervosa, PTSD and Major Depression. At the end of year 10 I told my parents, friends and family that I was leaving school. I felt like everyone thought I was some almighty failure for not staying on to complete my HSC and go to university. I felt the weight of their expectations and like a major disappointment. I was a highly intelligent girl, but school was just not for me.
It was hard, but I knew in my heart that I needed something I could pour my heart and soul into and to feel that I could make my own decisions for my future. For me that initial interest was immersing myself in the world of Child Development and studying to be a Child Care Educator, a field which I pursued with passion and enthusiasm.
For the first time ever, I began to maintain my recovery and worked in the Child Care industry for over 10 years, thoroughly enjoying my time there. I was however, still craving something more. Something with more soul. I started painting, dancing and playing netball again.
When I was twenty I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, an illness that left me bed bound for days and weeks on end. From my bed, I researched the root causes of illness and began to heal myself. I especially had an interest in the mind-body connection. My passion for holistic health and integrative medicine began at 14, but I pushed it away when I was forced into mainstream treatment. Coming back to it felt like I was on the right path for healing and perhaps tapping into my purpose and own version of success.
In 2008, I lost my Dad to cancer. I slowly began to relapse again. I felt survivors guilt, and wondered why I had survived so much illness and he had not. When I began to come through the grief I realised that I had survived for a reason and it was to be of service to others. Following in his footsteps as an entrepreneur, I started my first business, Holistic Vitality, in which I shared my journey of an alternative approach to recovery and healing. I wasn't earning any money from it but it didn't matter. What mattered was, I had unlocked another passion and planted the seed of what was to eventually emerge within me. This gave me a sense of purpose beyond surviving and recovery.
A NEW PARADIGM FOR SUCCESS IS
Loving yourself and being your own best friend.
Making the unconscious conscious.
Thinking outside the box.
Living a life aligned with your values.
Doing work that is aligned with your purpose and calling.
Facing your fears.
Being grateful for your blessings.
Trusting your intuition.
Self Awareness + Self-Actualization.
Knowing who you are and what you stand for.
Nurturing your most important relationships.
Forgiving yourself and others.
Meaningful connections + finding your tribe.
Connecting with your purpose and living a passion-filled life.
Compassion & Kindness for all sentient beings.
Being a beginner and having an insatiable curiosity.
Believing in yourself.
Finding your authentic voice and not been coaxed into silence or submission.
Looking within for healing.
Vulnerability, authenticity + courage.
Releasing the need to be perfect.
Understanding your life lessons.
Learning to be still in a busy world.
Contributing and being of service to others.
Mastering your inner critic.
Living your values.
Knowing how you want to feel, whilst working towards your goals in life.
Over-coming illness and adversity.
Getting up and showing up for your life and your dream.
Knowing your worth and never settling for less than you deserve.
Standing up for what is right.
Having the courage to disagree or voice your opinion.
Allowing the full expression of your emotions in a world that associates emotionality with weakness.
"In order to lead the life that you desire, you must set your own goals and idea of success according to what you want. This is all about you, your life, and idea of success."
Success is knowing who you are.
Success is having the courage to birth your true self into the world unapologetically.
Success is about overcoming.
Success is bravery in the face of obstacles.
Success is asking yourself powerful questions and thinking outside the box.
Success is finding the lessons in mistakes and hardships.
Success is breaking the mould and questioning what you have been told to believe.
Success is being kind, and compassionate.
Success is living life on YOUR terms.
Success is surviving and then THRIVING in the face of adversity.
Success is leaning into growth and expansion.
Success is setting healthy boundaries
And now I would love to hear from you beautiful. What was your understanding of what it meant to be successful growing up? How has it evolved? Are you currently living your idea of success or are you still stuck trying to live up to societies expectations?
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